{"id":3280,"date":"2023-10-16T16:26:00","date_gmt":"2023-10-16T16:26:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kisurfschool.gypsea-agency.fr\/boyfriend-syndrome\/"},"modified":"2026-05-04T12:44:50","modified_gmt":"2026-05-04T12:44:50","slug":"boyfriend-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kisurfschool.com\/en\/boyfriend-syndrome\/","title":{"rendered":"Boyfriend syndrome"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"et_d4_element et_pb_section et_pb_section_0  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode et_section_regular et_block_section\" >\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"et_d4_element et_pb_row et_pb_row_0  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode et_block_row\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"et_d4_element et_pb_column_4_4 et_pb_column et_pb_column_0  et_pb_css_mix_blend_mode et-last-child et_block_column\">\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_module et_d4_element et_pb_text et_pb_text_0  et_pb_text_align_left et_pb_bg_layout_light\">\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"et_pb_text_inner\"><p>Offers of surf lessons for girls, supervised by an instructor, are all the rage. There's probably a sociological explanation for this, but I'm going to look at another explanation, which has to do with <strong>boyfriend syndrome<\/strong>. <\/p>\n<h2>Definition<\/h2>\n<p>Surfing is <strong>highly addictive<\/strong>. When a more experienced surfer wants to surf with his beginner girlfriend, in 90% of cases, he takes her with him to <strong>the big waves at the bottom<\/strong>, which are not at all suited to her level, and disgusts her with surfing by creating a <strong>lot of stress<\/strong>. I call this the boyfriend syndrome.  <\/p>\n<p>Most surfers don't want to stay in the moss and wavelets of the shore with their girlfriend, buddy or sometimes even their child, which would have been recommended by any qualified surf instructor. They can't <strong>resist the call of the open sea<\/strong>. Too bad for the beginner, who finds himself in an unsuitable situation that can become a source of <strong>psychological blockages<\/strong>.  <\/p>\n<h2>Secondary effect<\/h2>\n<p>So, having been <strong>traumatized by a man<\/strong>, a number of girls, to regain their confidence in the ocean environment, trust <strong>a female instructor<\/strong> rather than a male one. They figure that the latter will have a more subtle approach than a man. <\/p>\n<p>However, <strong>a good professional, man or woman<\/strong>, will be able to demonstrate gentleness and finesse in his or her teaching approach. I pride myself on my ability to be <strong>sensitive, gentle and empathetic<\/strong>, whatever the gender. <\/p>\n<h2>Remedy<\/h2>\n<p>A <strong>gradual approach to the aquatic environment<\/strong> will enable you to overcome the blockage, but there's nothing irreversible about it.<\/p>\n<p>At <strong>Ki Surf School<\/strong>, I take in many of these \"<strong>injured birds<\/strong>\" as a result of an overly rough approach to the discipline.<\/p>\n<p>They now know their limits and can <strong>surf with joy and serenity<\/strong>!<\/p><\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":3281,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[227,182],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3280","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-all","category-surfers-brain"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.5 - 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